For six months I successfully made shepherds pie weekly for churches across the States. Then came the fatal week where the mashed potatoes would not thicken regardless of how much mashed potato powder I put in. They tasted awful and had a distinct sweet taste. The next week during dessert time we started having problems. “This is the strongest coffee I’ve ever had!” they said. “Look at it, you put in the creamer & it just thickens.” No wonder it was strong coffee, our team had got the mashed potatoes & creamer mixed up.
I struggled for many years with friendships. Often I’ve felt like the creamer in the shepherds pie - I just didn’t quite fit in. I have spent most of my life in the grand pursuit of finding a best friend, one that is a great listener, loves to shop, watch movies, hang out with my family…the list goes on.
Recently God challenged me to see friendship as a puzzle. Our need for friendships are not supposed to be satisfied with just one puzzle piece, but they are met with a whole puzzle of women, put together by God. Some friends are large pieces of our puzzle, others play very small roles, maybe just once a month they invest in your life with a smile, a hug, a cup of coffee. To be honest if I was designing my puzzle of friendship I would stop there. But God as the master designer has added pointy pieces. Some of these friends file these pointy pieces into knife like weapons, and they hurt us deeply.
Job had three pointy friends. Everything was taken from him, except his life, his wife and three pointy friends (which I would have gladly asked God to take). Job could have become bitter with these friends, but God commanded Job to pray for them. In Job 42:10 it reads, “After Job had prayed for his friends, the LORD made him prosperous again and gave him twice as much as he had before.” NIV
It was after Job prayed for his pointy friends that God blessed him, not before. Some of us have been greatly hurt by friends and we have allowed bitterness to reign in our hearts. God has put these people in our lives to shape us and mold us to be the woman God wants us to be. We need to seek God and ask Him to reveal to us where he wants to bring healing to our lives with our relationships. We will never find satisfaction in our relationships until we trust the great designer of our lives.